Certain holiday flavors are more than just tasty – they’re transports to our past. Neuroscience calls this the “Proust Effect”: smells and tastes can trigger especially vivid, positive memories. In fact, research finds that nostalgic memories evoked by scent and taste are “especially self-relevant” and even more positive than other nostalgia, boosting self-esteem and feelings of social connection. In other words, recalling a favorite holiday dish can literally lift your spirits and reinforce bonds.

This Thanksgiving, use food memories as a letter-writing prompt. Describe the recipes and flavors you both love. For example:

• Roasting Turkey: Write about the smell of spices and roasting turkey as Thanksgiving dinner cooks. Tell your loved one how you carve the turkey together, or how you season it “just like you taught me.”
• Sweet Potato Casserole: Recall that sweet, cinnamon-smothered casserole your family makes. Maybe mention the marshmallow browning on top, and how you wish you could taste it together.
• Pumpkin Pie: Describe the aroma of pumpkin and nutmeg, and that moment when you both take a bite. Share any funny memories (like pie fights!) or how you saved a slice just for them.
• Comfort Sides: Think of warm stuffing, green bean casserole, or creamy mashed potatoes. Describe their textures and tastes. Write about how these foods make you feel “at home,” and express gratitude that these traditions keep you connected.

By writing in sensory detail – tastes, smells, even textures – you make the holiday meal come alive on the page. Share why these dishes are special to both of you, and include any holiday rituals (like watching a game while you cook). This kind of letter won’t just share food memories, it will convey love and warmth, reminding you both that no prison walls can take away these moments.

Source: https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/36863096/